Wellness Resources

The Ambiguities of ‘Being Special’

Posted | Comments Off on The Ambiguities of ‘Being Special’

By: Mr. Craig Canfield, MA, LP, LCC Psychotherapist “The sluggard craves and gets nothing, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.”   Proverbs 13:4 “For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “the one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.”  2 Thessalonians 3:10                                                                                 We have heard…”We are all special in the eyes of God.” What exactly does this mean? If we are, are we any more or less special depending on the amount we try to help ourselves? But we are told that God helps those who cannot help...

Read More

Internet Safety for Children

Posted | Comments Off on Internet Safety for Children

Preventing Cyberbullying , Ages 7 to 11 By Mrs. Elizabeth Geiling, MSED, LMHC, LCC Psychotherapist  Being a Savvy Parent September is National Suicide Prevention Month. Children’s and teen’s suicide statistics have almost doubled in the last decade. There are many reasons for this increase but one predominant theory is cyberbullying and other predatory internet actions, considered especially dangerous because of the potential for anonymity. Be a savvy parent by using these guidelines: If you are technologically limited, make an effort to learn and continue learning. Most communities offer...

Read More

Outrage and Hope – Side by Side

Posted | Comments Off on Outrage and Hope – Side by Side

  Cheated. That’s how I felt this past week at the memorial service of a close colleague of mine. In life, she was a vibrant force of nature. She led, we followed. She was also unlucky. She had colorectal cancer that had metastasized. Why hadn’t she been screened for it? Well, that’s the tragic part. Screening for colon cancer typically begins at age 50. She was 48.  For me, a handful of funerals and memorial services stand out for a singular reason: they died too young. In some cases, way too young: a 35 year old, a 48 year old, a teen, an infant. Each time I felt cheated. The person...

Read More

Bullying by Proxy

Posted | Comments Off on Bullying by Proxy

In my practice as a therapist and as a youth leader, I have many times seen youth being targeted and bullied by parents, teachers and others unknowingly.  Jamie (name changed), a 10-year-old girl, was known to have some issues in school, but was able to get along well with others in her class.  A mother of another child in the class became involved when her own child, the ‘real bully’, told her that Jamie was a “bad kid”.  Based on what her child told her, this mother started organizing friendships away from Jamie.  Therefore, Jamie was excluded from birthday parties, play dates, and...

Read More

Is My Child Suicidal?

Posted | Comments Off on Is My Child Suicidal?

Help Me, Lord! My Child May Be Suicidal “I lift my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from?  My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.”     Psalm 121:1-2 People of all ages can have feelings of desperation. We may feel abandoned and forgotten, misunderstood and desolate. We yearn for peace and understanding, even when it seems like an impossible dream. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (afsp.org), more than twice as many people in New York State die from suicide than by homicide. Suicidal ideation can be a brief, passing thought or a...

Read More

Forgive and Forget?

Posted | Comments Off on Forgive and Forget?

PLEASE DO NOT FORGIVE AND FORGET By The Rev. Alan F. Steinke, LCSW-R A task of the first therapy session is the collaboration of the client and therapist to identify treatment goals. The most frequent goals center around alleviating anxiety, depression, and relational tensions. Infrequently named as a goal is “forgiveness,” although it is often later identified as the desired outcome. That which disturbs the mind is often the need to forgive or be forgiven. Literature brims with reflections about forgiveness. Alexander Pope: “To err is human, to forgive divine.” Oscar Wilde: “Always forgive...

Read More